What does your relationship look like?
What is behind it??
And what are you wishing for?
Here I am!
It is your heart’s desire to show yourself to your partner! You want to feel “seen” and understood!
- Without eventually hiding yourself for fear of getting hurt and maybe of drifting into “former patterns”.
- Without your counterpart’s mixing or confounding you with his/her own ideas and images of you.
- In connection with your partner’s chance of showing him/herself and your wish to see her/him.
I see you!
You want to see your counterpart with her/his own eyes!
- Without eventually losing your interest as the other is far too known and for that reason getting boring.
- Without being put off by not liking what you see.
- Without having the feeling that it is all and only about your counterpart.
- In connection with yourself being seen with your own eyes as well.
To see and to be seen are each arts on their own – which are your individual facets?
And what is there to be discovered?
Chance!
SAY SOMETHING!
You are fed up with your partner not talking to you!
It drives you crazy that you are not speaking with each other – or at least not about what is really important to you.
You feel like everything is better than that!
- It corresponds with your needs to name the problems and to talk about what is on your mind.
- It is quite a challenge to convey your need for verbal communication to your partner and to find out what your counterpart has to say even though he/she is not talking.
NOPE!
You are no longer up for talking about the same things over and over again!
You do not like psycho-slipslops! And what is all the talking good for anyway?! You tried it a hundred times and have accepted that it does not lead anywhere – but to disputes.
- Your “silence” does not only have a reason. To you, it also makes sense.
- It is a challenge to convey this sense to your partner and to find out what is possible when you expand that sense by the means of talking.
Talk and silence may be two sides of the same “communication medal”.
There is a lot to listening and talking alike – what are your own facets?
And what is there to be discovered?!
Chance!
A conflict also includes the chance to a greater understanding – for you and your counterpart alike.
In order to seize that chance, it makes sense to choose new ways and other “techniques”. Support from outside may show “entries” that were invisible until then, or their “opening mechanisms” have not yet revealed themselves.
And then, your relationship may show itself with all its facets.
A conflict also includes the chance to a greater understanding – for you and your counterpart alike.
In order to seize that chance, it makes sense to choose new ways and other “techniques”. Support from outside may show “entries” that were invisible until then, or their “opening mechanisms” have not yet revealed themselves.
And then, your relationship may show itself with all its facets.
Each position or attitude has at least two aspects – and they both have their right and entitlement.
Sender and recipient:
what one sends is by far not what the other understands.
Differences within one and the same “statement”:
in the recipient’s eyes, the contents of what is sent needn’t be identical with the form in which it was sent.
Differences in perception:
what one considers too hot already can possibly be too cold for the other.
Even seemingly contradictory opinions and attitudes or conflicting feelings are on equal terms and do not rule each other out.
I consider it my task to find the meanings and valuations of those, who are part of the relationship, and to make these meanings understandable and visible to all parties.
All parties personally gain by knowing that one’s own point of view is understood and by being able to see and understand the other party’s aspects.
Further relationship facets
